Not feeling safe?
This site is for everyday disagreements: the dishes, the in-laws, who said what. It is the wrong place for a relationship where someone is frightened, hurt, threatened or controlled. Those are not arguments with two sides, and nobody should be given a score for them.
In danger right now? Call 112. It is the emergency number everywhere in the EU. Outside the EU, call your local emergency number.
Want to talk to someone? The EU has set up one shared number, 116 016, for helplines for women affected by violence. It connects to national helplines, and it may not be live in every country yet.
Whoever you are, a doctor, a local victim-support service or the police non-emergency line can point you to help near you, in confidence.
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